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Are you currently dating a man, and you get the feeling he’s scared of commitment?
Some men are very comfortable settling down with a woman, and for others it can make them run a mile!
So what could be making him feel this way?
Here are some reasons your man may be uneasy about being in a committed relationship.
There’s someone else
Hopefully not, but it is possible he has someone else on his mind, leaving him confused about what kind of future he wants for you and him.
It is also possible he is not over his ex partner thus making it hard to commit to you.
He’s got other priorities
He is pretty much focused on everything:
- work,
- hobbies,
- family, and
- friends.
If he feels he’s got other areas in his life that require more attention, then that will come first and he will think of you later.
His close friends haven’t committed
The majority of men will want to commit eventually.
But he may not have wanted to be the first one out of his group of friends to do so…
…feeling like he going to be missing out on anything and everything with his single friends.
He’s feeling pressured by you
You’re just so on him about it all the time and it’s really getting to him. If he wants to commit to you, then allow him to get to that stage on his own.
If you constantly bring it up, he may become upset with you and push him further away.
Loss of free time
He likes time to himself and to do his own thing. Serious relationships
take up an enormous amount of time and emotional energy and he doesn’t want that kind of pressure.
You don’t respect him for who he is right now
If you don’t respect and love him for who he is right now, then what will things be like in a few years from now? In a decade?
He has his own dreams and aspirations about what the future holds and if you don’t seem like you are supportive of those, then it can raise an alarm bell that might be causing him not to want to commit further to you.
His history and his need to feel safe
When you learn about his past relationships, and his childhood ones, then you may understand why he can’t commit to you.
Is he swearing off new relationships because of pain that was caused by a previous breakup?
He may need a little extra time until he feels safe in his new relationship with you.
He hasn’t grown up
Men can take a little longer to grow up than women.
It takes a certain amount of maturity to get to the point of commitment, and he may not be quite there yet.
An immature man rarely considers the wants and needs of others above his own.
So what’s the bottom line, then?
Sometimes men can be difficult to read, and hard to know what it is they really want.
They prefer to let the relationship just fall into place without any pressure.
If you think you and your boyfriend should become more serious e.g. moving in together, or talks about marriage, then find a time to very gently talk to him.
Find out what it is he wants and where your relationship is heading.
Make sure you don’t talk at him and ensure the conversation is light and friendly, and you may be surprised at how he opens up to you!
PS: In the next article, you will discover the traits that women have that men routinely fall for.
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