How to Embrace You and Just Be Yourself

Fears, doubts and insecurities are all around us, outside and inside of us.

Sometimes it seems easier to “just want to be someone else”…

…as we wrap ourselves up in these negative feelings.

The grass may appear much greener on the other side based on our own perceptions and ideas.

These perceptions may or may not be based in actual reality due to experiences we have had.

The reality is often the exact opposite and others are more afraid or insecure than we are.

Have you ever thought…

…what if the person you think has everything going for them looks in the mirror and…

…hates the way they smile, or how large they think their eyes are?

…And what if everyone else in their family has brown eyes, and…

…they are made to feel out of place for having blue ones?

It could be the other way around…

If the messages they have heard from family, friends or loved ones has always been negative…

…their self-esteem might have taken some solid hits from that.

We might envy others for their beauty, wealth or relationships, even desiring to trade places with them…

…could they be looking back at us and thinking the same thing?

For example, you might be the smartest person around and they wish they could be as smart as you…

Where is all this coming from?

That feeling of quiet desperation to “be someone else” often stems from:

• a lack of self-confidence,
• low self-esteem and
• excuses that usually start with the words “if only…”.

This is just a perception and not your reality.

Or is it?

So, what can you do about it?

Rather than spend your life wringing your hands about…

…who you can’t be, or…

…what you don’t have in it…

…concentrate on finding out how to make things better for yourself.

Ask yourself questions like “how can I..?” (fill in the blanks)…

…and seek solutions to how to become a better person and to accept yourself for who you are.

Some examples

How about learning new skills, and ask trusted friends or advisers about how they see you.

You could always read a book, such as The Silva Mind Control Method, by José Silva, to learn how you can take control of your mind so you can improve your life.

Just because that’s the way “you have always been” doesn’t mean that’s the way you must always remain. Taking steps to self-improvement can open up new doors of experiences and opportunities for you. Then you can, in turn, inspire and motivate others.

Get rid of the regrets in your conversations with yourself…

…forgive yourself, and…

…focus on achieving your full human potential.

Accept yourself for who you are, improve what and where you can and stop constantly comparing yourself to others.

Extra tip: loving yourself using EFT

Here’s an extra tip that you can do, using the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), also known as “tapping”.

While you are tapping, say to yourself:

Even though I feel this way, I truly and deeply love and accept myself

Even though I feel this way, I truly and deeply love and forgive myself

I think it might have been Louisa May who said this…

Even if you don’t know what EFT is, you might wish to write the words down on an index card…

…and read it to yourself when you are not feeling too good about yourself.

We may feel insecure at times but that doesn’t have to be a life sentence for being unhappy. Loving ourselves is part of self-acceptance.

Sometimes we have to be selfish – for our own good.

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To a better, wiser, stronger – YOU.

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